How would you define well-being? Do you give much thought to your own well-being? Is it just something you take for granted until you feel worn down, exhausted, unwell?
Chances are, well-being means something different to each and everyone of us, but we are all painfully aware when it is lacking in our lives.
For me, well-being is about feeling good about yourself and your life. Its about having a zest for life, a reason to get out of bed in the morning. It’s about a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfilment in your relationships and your work. It’s about enjoying life, feeling confident, optimistic and full of energy.
It’s a feeling that comes from within. No one else can give you a sense of well being.
You’ve heard the phrase, ‘Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans‘. Much of the time we are all busy getting on with life. Often that means juggling work, family and children. We may have in our minds a whole host of things we would like to do, but the everyday stuff of earning a living and life in general takes over. There is no time for ‘us’ , we become caught up in simply getting through the week, hanging on for the weekend or a holiday.
Sometimes we become vaguely aware that this isn’t what we signed up to, but, well, that’s life, or we become gradually more stressed, worn out, even ill.
So how do you achieve this sense of well-being? As I said before, well-being comes from within and we have to do something about it ourselves. The good news is we all have the inner resources to make changes and achieve that sense of well-being. Well-being Coaching helps you to tap into those resources. It allows you to shine a light on all the areas of your life and ask – What do I really want? What’s stopping me? Why is it important to me now? How do I get started?
As a Well-being Coach I work with my clients to look at 8 key elements that are vital to their health and well-being. Together we examine each of those areas in turn and look at where they are now, what their thoughts and feelings are about each of those areas are and what changes they feel they want and need to make, all with the overall aim of improving their health and well-being. Sometimes we have to look more deeply at what thoughts and feelings are stopping that person from making those changes and do some work on overcoming these.
To give you some examples, I have had clients who are in difficult work situations that are severely denting their confidence. I have had clients who feel that life is OK but they want more; they want to pursue a life long dream, something which fulfils their sense of life purpose. I have had clients who have become disconnected from friends and family because of illness.
The starting point with all my clients is always to take stock. Where are you now? If there was a magic wand, what would you wish life to be like? If that’s where you want to end up , so what is the first small step you can make towards that goal? Setting goals is one of the key tools of coaching. But of course life isn’t that simple. We can all set goals for ourselves. Reaching or achieving those goals isn’t always as easy.
Sometimes we keep hitting the same brick wall and just can’t seem to move on. This is where the skills of a coach can be helpful. As a coach I can help you to dig a bit deeper to find out what ‘s holding you back. Are you holding onto unhelpful beliefs about yourself? How is that affecting your self esteem, your self confidence, your view of the world? Are your values in conflict with something you are being asked to do? We all have our own filters on the world. We form our own unique view of the world based on our own life experiences. What we believe about the world is ‘our truth’. However, that truth may be based on a set of experiences that are no longer relevant. As a coach, bringing awareness of these beliefs to the surface, allows the client to look at these beliefs and decide if they really are relevant anymore. Bringing these beliefs to the surface starts the process of change.
How could coaching help you?